So I was watching “How I met your mother” last night. I had never seen any episodes until a month ago when it was on at our gym in our apartment complex. I think the show makes great points about people but some bits take it too far and it’s almost sad. I watched the episode about leading people on and unrequited love. They characteristically name this phenomenon “being on the hook”. It can be seen in that guy or girl you’ve got stuck in the friend zone.
Women are notorious for this. We’ve all seen that guy and girl at the mall; he may be carrying bags and even a purse but there is no flirting or h -holding. And his clothes don’t match so you know he’s not gay. He’s just trying desperately to claw out of the friend zone. She’s got him on the hook, you know she knows it and he may never know it. There are some people who think they will have a chance with you simply because they have no idea how to read social cues. These people believe all sorts of things that are untrue essentially because they lack a basic underst ing of social interaction. These people may never get the message and it’s not your fault.
There are other people that are on the hook and it is entirely your fault. There are people that you keep around to stroke your ego or simply because you don’t have the heart to be blunt or balls to tell them the truth. The truth is “someday will never come”. My husbandand I actually sort of enjoy pointing out r om strangers that appear to be “in to” the other one of us. For us it validates what we already know: we made the right choice back in June when we decided to get married. It’s one thing to laugh when a waiter or drunk girl pays too much attention to one of us. It’s another thing if IRL we actually kept someone in the wings waiting for a down turn in our relationship. Either way, it’s kinda sad if you see someone “on the hook”.