We all have them. Maybe it’s when your beautiful new shoes turn out to be torture chambers. Maybe it’s when a hot new restaurant turns out to be a bust. Maybe it’s when a hot new blockbuster turns out a flop. Or maybe it’s something a bit more important like when your significant other forgets something important. Or your friend blows you off. Or you’re passed up for a promotion.
You may be tempted to take out your frustrations on other innocent people. You may have words with a store clerk, dem your money back from the theater manager or short a waiter on their tip. Some people, who you do not have a direct relationship with, will write you off as a jerk and never take your cut downs personally. Other times when the disappointment is more personal we may pick off the easy targets. We pick fights with our dogs or spouses, our children or our parents to simply fight with someone.
Nothing good ever comes from these reaction fights. Peoples’ feelings are hurt and the offended feel no better. So next time something disappoints you, guide the anger to where it should have surfaced anyway. You can get rid of the shoes on your own. You can write a review and blast the movie or restaurant. You could confront the person who upset you in a kind manner with forgiveness on your heart. Whatever you decide, directing the anger at the offending party and not the innocent people nearby will make everyone a lot happier.