When I was studying at the University, I came across St point Theory. It’s one of my favorite communication theories. St point Theory states something my brother has always told me: perception is reality. The basic premise of the theory is that we are a product of our environment. Everything we think, feel, believe and know to be true comes from our position in the world. A man experiences the world differently from a woman, who has a different experience from someone who is poor, that is different from someone who is rich. Rich and poor are merely arbitrary labels we assign to our feelings as we compare ourselves to others. I’m sure you have know people that believed they were rich as you have known people who believe they are poor, while our perception of them is completely different.
Whenever you are mixed ethnicity, you have a unique perception. One side is usually dominant. You may look more Caucasian, Asian, African American, Hispanic or Arabic. You may feel more accepted by one side of your family than the other. You may be adopted and look different that everyone else and not know enough about your heritage to know why. As an Asian-Caucasian American woman, I can write about these experiences. I won’t go as far to say I’ve ever been discriminated against for anything, but people have made remarks to me about being mixed. People who don’t know me may remark about my ethnic background but usually accept me later. Generally these are white people and when they meet me I look white enough so it’s okay. I’ve also been told I’m pretty so that may have something to do with it too.
Asian people seem to be more accepting in general. Whenever I was in a class, Asian Americans all seemed to find each other. I think it’s because we have similar cultures and values. When Asian people meet each other you talk about what generation you are. If you are 1st generation (immigrant parents), 2nd generation (immigrant gr parents), or what I like to call “off the boat” (an immigrant yourself). If it’s a group of women you may talk about your house hold duties (cooking the rice, or refusal to learn to cook the rice). If you are a group of men you may talk about gambling. I’m sure there are Asian people I meet who look at me as less for only being half, just as there are Caucasian people that do the same. The point of the matter is to love yourself for who you are, and find peace with your own self identity.