No matter who you are and what you do, if you’re breathing your probably still dreaming. We dream of relationships, promotions, new jobs and recognition. I read in Vanity Fair a while back that no matter how much money you make, you think making more money would make you rich. This goes back to the principle of social comparison and the arbitrary labels we assign to things. The point is that it’s human nature to seek betterment. There are of course people who have given up and they try to feel better by simply accepting “fate” and not trying. In contrast, for most of us there is something that we want. There is a goal we have in mind and we work towards it subconsciously or directly. In all of my years of study I have come across countless theories of self presentation. The basic core that ties them all together is the belief that we as individuals control how others perceive us. Whether or not you are coming across in the way you intend is another matter.
The point is that the way that we dress, walk, talk and act are communicating all sorts of things about ourselves. The thing to remember is that if you can underst how others perceive you, by analyzing the way they act around you or speak to you, then the rest is simple. Whatever you want, you can find a way through your means of communicating to get it. There are two rules to remember. First, remember that no matter who you are, there are at least 10 people that are, hotter, better qualified, or smarter than you. The point is to own it and use what you have to get the job done. The second point to remember is don’t lie. When I was a little girl my father always told me if you tell one lie you have to tell another and another. Before you know it, your memory fails you and you’re caught. You can be persuasive charming and present yourself in the best possible light while staying true to who you are. If you look the part, and act the part, I’m sure that sooner or later you will get the part.