I was over at my father-in-law’s house last night. My husbandand I love spending time with our families. My father-in-law always has the most amazing stories about his Army glory days. Last night we were talking about a very sensitive subject; the hurt locker. A lot of people who have lived in combat keep mementos from the people they have lost. In every war movie out there, when a soldier dies the friend takes his dog tags back for him. Some people keep them, some people present them to the next of kin, but the tag always makes it home as a sign of respect. It’s called a hurt locker because of the nature of war, and battles. My father in law calls his a memory box. While the stuff inside may hurt, he still remembers the experience in its entirety. I got to thinking about it and the idea of a hurt locker or memory box. The concept isn’t just unique to people serving overseas. Everyone carries a hurt locker or a memory box with them through life. Some people have old cards from people. Some people keep a collection of photographs. Some people don’t have a single tangible item to look at. Yet, every event is filed away somewhere in their subconscious mind. So I ask you, do you have a memory box or a hurt locker? This is sort of a philosophical question going back to the idea that perception is reality. The stuff in both storage containers may hurt if you go poking around in it. The stuff in both containers may be filled with past experiences both good and bad. Yet the box is only filled with memories, while the locker is filled with hurt. I’m not going to say that by calling your past one thing over another it’s going to solve all the issues and make the stuff inside any more fun to deal with. But, to be fair, words have power. Something only has power over you to evoke your emotions if you let it. So do you have a memory box or a hurt locker?