So, on the outside this seems like a frivolous debate but I think it has merit. There are all sorts of religions out there. Likewise there are all sorts of people out there. Some people cling to a religion while others experience a relationship. I am not going to say that there is a right religion to get you to the relationship, because that is not my place. Let’s define a “religion” as a set of rules, rituals, and guidelines, put in place to underst God. To have a “relationship” would be to actually know God. The biggest fallacy of religion: God only associates with perfect people.
It’s interesting to take the argument one step further. Can you be religious without having a relationship? Of course! There are thous s of married people going to sleep in separate beds tonight. These people have commitment without love. Can you have a relationship without being religious? Of course there are tons of happy co-habituating couples going to bed together tonight. These people have love but not commitment. The basis of a healthy relationship is trust, underst ing and respect. No all married people have healthy relationships just like not all people in healthy relationships are married. There are tons of non-stereotypical people out there who love God and know God without a formal religion. Look at artifacts from excavation cites. The idea of God in whatever form you choose dates back to the first civilization. So is one better than the other? Maybe. But, like love, that depends on who you are talking to. I think its better to have both. Statistically, happily married people are happier than cohabiting people who have reservations about marriage and married people who lost their connection.
So which is more important to have first? I’ll tell you the truth: it doesn’t matter just get there. Like a marriage, religion won’t save you when you are more concerned with pretending to be perfect than just trying to be a better person for the sake of your spouse. And unlike people who just live together, you have a greater sense of security when you know the person you are with is in it for the long hall. I’ll tell you the truth: God will never leave you, people leave God. No matter where you are or where you’ve been, you can never fall farther than to fall at the feet of Jesus. I’ll tell you a secret… he can catch!