Everyone has a letter. If you talk to people you will learn what letter they carry. For some people it’s a “M” mom or a “T” for teacher “D” for doctor. Other people their letter a characteristic “R” for rich, “G” for good or “A” for adventurous. Whoever you are I am pretty sure you define yourself by a particular aspect about yourself. You may not think of yourself as simple enough to have one letter that defines you; maybe it’s a combination of letters. That’s fine too as long as you check your perception settings.
Some people will say all of my characteristics are pure. I have “P” for parent “T” for teacher and “G” for good. These people are very lucky. These people have three letters. They are all white letters colored, with their good intentions. These people wake up in the morning happy to look at themselves in a mirror. These people are comfortable in their own skin. These people have a sense of self and know they are accepted.
Now there are other people who may say I have “S” for spouse, “A” for adventurous and “D” for drugs. The problem with that two of the letters are white and one letter is Scarlett. This person may not care one way or another, what color their letters are. They are happy and don’t care to be different. They don’t care if they are good bad or indifferent. They say, “Some people may not accept me for this poor choice but I still like to look at myself in the mirror”.
There is a third group of people. They may say I have “P” for parent, “K” for kind and “A” for adulterer. This was the plot to the book scarlet letter. The theme and moral from this book is the basis of this blog. These people have a red letter. They say I lost my white letter a long time ago. I will accept that I am marked and carry my shame in this little red letter on my shirt. I will carry this burden all of my days because I did something unforgivable a long time ago.
Now this goes back to the idea that perception is reality. If perception is reality then people create the world in which they live. People have a choice to say the world is mostly good or mostly bad. Someone can get in a car accident and say “OMG I almost died” or “Thank God for my life”. The scary stuff will always happen to us it is how we look at it. Does the experience destroy us or help us grow? My mother taught me how to control my perception settings. She always told me when you’re feeling down, stop and count your blessings. I’ve learned a thing or two from my mother and now I can usually count more blessing than disasters.
So here’s the tricky part. Most people can’t walk around and say I only have white letters. It’s just not possible for everyone to say I have lived my whole life beyond reproach and nothing I ever did was that bad. Maybe I got a little dirt on my white letters but I know in my heart of hearts that my letter is still white.
Most people will say yes I may have been born with a white letter when I was born. I lived my life and things happened. Along the way in addition to my white letters I have at least one scarlet letter. Not everyone will talk about that letter they wear on their shirt or just hidden on the undershirt. Yet they still know it’s there and carry it everywhere.
So this is where the perception checking comes in. We can agree that some letters are white and some letters have a redish tint. The healing comes when you can point to the letter on your shirt and say this letter is red, the color of redemption. This letter is no longer scarlet because scarlet is the color of shame.