I think the search for self-identity probably consumes the better part of our teens and early adulthood. In prior generations people got married, bought a house, started a family and were thrown into adulthood with stark transitions in their life. People in my generation are stuck in threshold not quite a child not quite a full-fledged adult. At our age my husbandand I’s life is a lot different than our parents. By the time his parents were our age, they had two kids, a booming career, and a house. By the time my parents were my age, my mother had her first child, and my father was in law school.
Researchers have deemed this phenomenon in men as the “guy-hood age” not quit as career free as boyhood not quit as dem ing as manhood. The endless adolescence consuming most of our twenties as given our generation a bad name. In Japan, the women delaying marriage and staying home in their twenties have been deemed “parasites” living off of their aging parents.
Blame “Sex in the City” if you will but the women of my generation are less likely to rush into marriage and childbearing then our parents were. Most of my friends are married but when I listen to them talk they want careers, they want to travel and see a bit more of the world before they get tied down.
I am fortunate to have a fabulous husband. At 25 I have had a career in corporate America and I’ve also experienced life as a house wife. I am fortunate in that I don’t see either role defining who I am as a person. I don’t gain myself worth from the size of my paycheck or my relationship status. My identity comes from a deeper sense of self. It comes from those experiences and a million other little things. It comes from my belief in myself, knowing I can face anything life throws at me with a smile facing it head on.