I believe there are lots of lost people out there trying to find their way. Religion teaches rules and conformity. Relationship is a completely different way to experience God. When we prioritize a relationship with God, we can transform rather than just conform. Religion changes a person’s appearance and relationship changes their heart.
From the beginning, God has wanted to have a relationship with the people he created. When Jesus walked the Earth he challenged religious scholars because they clung to their rituals and rules rather than seeking God. When a person has a relationship with God they want to do the right thing; not out of fear of damnation, but out of love and respect.
Think about your relationship with your spouse. You wouldn’t say, “What can I get away with? How far is too far before they leave me?” Instead you communicate with them. You go out of your way to let them know you love and respect them. The markers of a healthy relationship are: including them in things like financial decisions that will affect both of you, setting boundaries together to safeguard your marriage, and valuing their opinion and input on a daily basis.
God wants the same type of relationship with you. He doesn’t want you to change your behavior out of fear and obligation, he wants your heart, your love, and your respect. God wants to be included in your decisions and to be counted as a member of your family. Could you imagine what God could do in our lives if we sought a two-way relationship with him? Many people take their relationship with God for granted until something catastrophic happens. Instead of praying for a quick fix when things are tough, seek God to be the Lord over your life. That may mean you lose a boyfriend/girlfriend. That may mean you change your career. That may mean you find yourself outside of your comfort level.
When you let God lead you, something changes. You find a peace that you never knew you could have. There is a comfort in knowing that it’s not your life, it’s his plan. When you accept that, disappointments will still come but our reaction to them is different. There is a certainty you can only have when you communicate with God. There is a confidence he gives you that the world can’t take from you. It has nothing to do with being good enough, or accolades, or self-righteousness; it comes from finding favor with God because you are his and he is yours.