You make sacrifices so you can have a better future. That may mean you forgo your honeymoon to get into a space of your own. That may mean you still drive the car you’ve had since high school so you can spend your money on things that matter, more than a nice set of wheels. That may mean that you red box movies, and Netflix your TV, because theaters and cable aren’t in the budget. That may mean you use high/low pricing of grocery stores to your advantage and only buy what’s on sale; planning your meals based on ads.
Education is a must:
That may mean you move in with your parents while you finish your degree. That may mean you have three to four roommates just to pay rent. That may mean you work a job that’s less than ideal just to navigate your way through school. That may mean date night is a little creative and almost always cheap: checking out a free concert, playing Cards Against Humanity with a take away pizza, and only having good wine for special occasions. That may mean you can’t make every social event because homework is a must.
Tragedy can’t pull us apart:
I remember 2013, with my husband. We had been married for two years and together for seven. We both had good corporate jobs in insurance and a great apartment. No joke I probably could have taken out a sublet on my walk in closet and counted it as income property. I remember thinking wow we’ve made it we’re actually doing it. Then I was hospitalized twice that year and for 3 more months the following year. That’s when reality hit. I knew neither of us were happy at our jobs and even though the money was good there was more to life than am 8-5 and going out every night. So we made the choice. While I got well, we’d move back in with his parents and put together enough money to put 20% down on a property costing no more than 150K once he graduated. It’s been hard, but it’s worth it to have a better future together.
We’re looking for a life partner not a trophy spouse:
I’m fortunate we met in high school. This was before “the hookup-culture” and tinder took over the dating scene. Things were simpler for us. There’s an exciting innocence to dating in high school. He’s had great jobs making lots of money and terrible jobs making almost nothing. I didn’t enter into our relationship looking for someone to take care of me financially. I was always ambitious enough to want my own career and financial independence. Likewise, he didn’t marry me because of my bra size or how I look in a dress. At 17 we didn’t care about those things. We were drawn to each other because we stayed up all night debating philosophy, politics, and religion. When we debated it was argumentative not aggressive and in each conversation I fell in love with his intellect.
We’re figuring out our own way:
We don’t know where our lives will take us and that’s the beautiful part. We’re still young enough to dream big, but old enough to consider the consequences. We don’t know what our lives will look like 10 or 20 years from now. We don’t know what city we’ll be in, the type of job we’ll have, or what our family will look like. There’s going to be a lot of changes in these next few years. I can’t wait to see where life takes us.